Anyone that knows me probably knows that I am a complete philosophy nerd. I love understanding, contradicting, and correcting other viewpoints. I love discovering, defending, and declaring truth. Yet, for the most part I try to avoid attacking opponents unless it’s necessary. However, I really feel like I need to say something about the ideology of feminism. It has been driving me bonkers for quite a while now.
Feminism bothers me more than almost any other mindset that I disagree with. There are a multitude of things I could nit-pick about it. If I were to write about every reason I disagree with the ideology it would become a series of books instead of a blog, so I’ll digress. For right now I just want to hammer on one of the things that bothers me the most: Feminism destroys chivalry.
I hear many complaints about how chivalry is dead. I have heard that lament from old men, young men, ladies, girls, Christians, non-Christians, etc. It is pretty common really. I disagree with that statement, personally. I do not believe that chivalry is dead. There are still gentlemen in the world that are fighting for it. However, I do believe it is on life-support and feminism is poised to pull the plug.
On the surface feminism and chivalry don’t seem to interfere with each other all that much. In fact, some people look at me funny when I say that the two are connected. But feminism really has a more profound impact on how men act than most people realize. I would say that in a society dominated by feminism it is nearly impossible to be a gentleman.
Why does feminism render chivalry impossible? There are three reasons that I think are the most prevailant: feminism lowers the expectations place on men, insults those that exceed those expectations, and tries to destroy the difference between men and women. These three reasons have transformed many would-be gentlemen into nothing more than ‘dudes.’
The first reason I mentioned is not noticed very often it seems and appears a bit more obscure. When I say it lowers the expectations placed on men, I mean that it expects men to be brainless barbarians. Speaking as a young man, I tell you that most of us will rise to the expectations that are placed upon us. If men are expected to be nothing more than beasts that is how they will act.
If men are expected to look like Homer Simpson that is what most of them will become. If men are expected to treat women the same way they treat each other, that is how they will treat them. If men are expected to rise to the occasion and treat women with respect and be courteous, intelligent, and strong, that is what many of them will be. Feminism destroys the expectations that should be placed on men.
On the second reason I speak as a young man that is very frustrated about being labeled a ‘sexist’ because he tries to be a gentleman. It makes me angry when I see a generation of men acting like children. It makes me even more angry when I see that the few that aim to be real men get ripped down for their efforts. The first group are insulted for not trying to be gentlemen. The second group are scorned and considered condescending for trying.
Ladies, trust me when I say that most guys are not being condescending, or arrogant, or sexist, when they open doors for you, or offer to pay for your lunch, or carry things for you, or walk you to your car. It is not because we think you’re weak. It is because we respect you. Gentlemen understand that women are different from men and they honour the difference.
That leads me to the last reason. I believe there is a fundamental difference between men and women. In feminism’s aim for equality it has thrown the baby out with the bath-water. Feminism propogates that men and women are not only equal, but the same. Whereas it is true that men and women are equal, it is entirely incorrect to claim that they are not different. They both have their strengths and weaknesses. And that is the way it is meant to be.
The aim of chivalry is to value women for who they are. It recognizes that they are not men and it uses the strength of masculinity to respect the feminine. When men are expected to be barbarians, insulted for trying to be courteous, and told that they should treat women the way they treat the guys, it is almost impossible for them to be gentlemen. That is why I hate feminism: because I love chivalry.